Reflections on Fame: A Personal Journey

Daily writing prompt
Who is the most famous or infamous person you have ever met?

I was 10 years old in 1968. That year, I built a soap box derby car. I have a fond memory of my father helping me build it—as much as the rules allowed.

When race day came, they set my car and two others on the starting ramp. The ramp was on a road by Lake Ontario that had a steep hill. They let the cars go, and off I went down the hill.

The kid in the next lane swerved into mine, and to avoid hitting him, I turned into the snow fence that lined the road. My wheel caught in the wire, spun the car around, and bent the axle. Needless to say, I didn’t win the race.

Afterward, my father got talking to the men running the race, and soon he joined the committee that was planning a new track. Not long after, he told me he was going on a trip to Akron, Ohio, with other members of the committee for the big national soap box derby day—to see how their track was set up. And he said I could come along.

So my father, I, and others from the committee—and their kids—took a road trip from Rochester, New York, to Akron. We stayed in a fancy hotel for a day or two before the big event. I made friends with another kid, and we noticed a lot of real celebrities were staying there because they were going to be in the big parade on race day.

That gave us a clever idea: we’d hang out in the lobby by the elevator to watch the celebrities come and go.

Once, we saw the actor Lorne Greene from the TV show Bonanza making his way through the crowd in the lobby. He had a man with him clearing a path, and they were heading straight for the elevator. We positioned ourselves right by the doors, and as Lorne Greene and his assistant went in, we slipped in just before the doors closed.

Now, we were just a couple of kids, and we barely knew what to say except “hi.” Lorne Greene reached out and shook each of our hands. We rode with him silently until he reached his floor. He was such a nice guy—friendly and patient—and he didn’t scold us for sneaking in.

It’s one of those memories that has stayed with me all my life—not just the race, but that whole adventure with my dad.

Years later, I almost met Jesse Jackson. I was on a plane in coach, and I could see him a few rows up in first class. Only a few times in my life have I encountered people who seemed larger than life. It’s hard to describe, but they seem to glow with some kind of spiritual power. I don’t know much about him personally, but that was the impression I got from a distance.

For anyone unfamiliar, Reverend Jesse Jackson was a major figure in the civil rights movement, working alongside Martin Luther King Jr. in the 1960s. He later ran for president in the 1980s, becoming the first African American to seriously contend for a major party’s nomination. Known for his powerful oratory and his message of justice and hope, Jackson inspired millions with his phrase “Keep hope alive.”

So while I can’t claim to have met many famous people, I’ve had a few brushes with them—and what I remember most isn’t the fame, but the feeling of being in the presence of someone who carried themselves with grace.

Most Expensive Personal Purchases: A Reflection

Daily writing prompt
Name the most expensive personal item you’ve ever purchased (not your home or car).

They say the 2 best days in a boaters life are, the day they buy the boat, and the day they sell the boat.

I can confirm that is very true.

Someone once said, a boat is a hole in the water into which you pour money.

Again.. true.

I am on my laptop much of my free time.

Daily writing prompt
How do you manage screen time for yourself?

I had a career in developing software for research, so I got used to 8 hours a day at the screen.

Now I don’t have a lot of free time, but when I do, very often I’m at my laptop, either developing something, writing, or yes scrolling past reel after reel on social media. The scrolling is not all mindless, because I sometimes get exposure to issues that I then want to write about.

About my names

Daily writing prompt
Where did your name come from?

I have a 4 part name. First name, Middle name, Confirmation name, Last name.

I don’t need to say the names, but they each have a story.

My first name — is really the english version of a greek name, it means “crown”. You can guess it based on the name of this blog. But how did I get it? Well, my mother had a favorite character in a soap opera back in the 50’s. I got named after the character!

My middle name, is the same as my father’s middle name. I was the third son. My father had that middle name because his father had that middle name… so though I haven’t checked on it… This is a middle name that got passed down the generations.

My confirmation name came form my uncle who sponsored me. Well that’s not unusual, but that uncle’s first name is exactly the same as my father’s middle name.. That uncle is from my mother’s side. The way the name is placed is after my middle name, the name begins with a C.. so I have a C squared in the middle of my name. Part of Einstein’s famous equation.

My last name is interesting. We’re of Italian heritage, but my last name is not really Italian, though you can find families with it or a variation of it in Italy. My last name is often used as a first name, and the way the name came into being is interesting. You see before the 1600’s no one had that name. The name itself is a Welch word. But someone wrote a novel… yes people wrote novels in the 1600’s and there was a character in the book with that as a name. Somehow the name caught on from that and lots of people around Europe adopted the name, or some variation on it…. So again.. My first name came from a character in a soap opera, and my last name came from a character in a 1600’s novel.

I would have a spider tattoo except for all the judging…

Daily writing prompt
What tattoo do you want and where would you put it?

Quite a long time ago, I was working in my career and I got it into my head I wanted a small tattoo. I thought a lot about what it would look like, and had some cute ideas,.. So I decided upon a small spider. Nice and simple.

Well a tattoo is a commitment, so that summer on vacation in the 1000 islands, I got a temporary tattoo of a spider put on in one of the gift shops. Right on my left wrist.

The next work day I was at the coffee pot, and a co-worker remarked… “Stephen, I didn’t think you were that kind of person!”

Basically people got judgy in a corporate environment about a simple little visible tattoo.

So I gave up the idea.

What I found in my life is people treat you very differently based on the appearance you present. Especially in a corporation.

For instance, I was computer science/researcher my whole carrier, so I basically wore jeans, sneakers, and sometimes a nice shirt, sometimes a t-shirt. As I walked the halls I was pretty invisible except to people who I worked directly with, who’d say hi to me.

Well one day I decided to try something. Wear a button shirt and a tie. I did that for a few days and found that now as I walked in the halls, managers who never acknowledged me before would say “Hi, hows it going?” as they walked by.

Once the experiment was over I went back to my normal attire.

For the last decade I’ve only travelled by car.

Daily writing prompt
You’re going on a cross-country trip. Airplane, train, bus, car, or bike?

I have traveled by train before… it’s cute, but slow, and inconvenient. I’ve travelled by bus before. In that phase of my life I had frequent colds, because of exposure to others on the bus. I’ve travelled by plane before— I dislike that immensely.

On the other hand, I enjoy road trips, and only see those in my future.

I see wild animals

Daily writing prompt
Do you ever see wild animals?

The answer is yes, I see wild animals, but living in a suburb those animals are birds, some small such as sparrows, some large such as crows, and squirrels. More rarely I see a fox or 2 at night on my cameras, and the largest animals I see are deer, who seem to like to munch on things in my garden.

Driving around town, I have seen geese and ducks congregating around ponds, and of course seagulls in parking lots — they seem to like parking lots. A few times I have been treated by seeing groups of wild turkeys walking around our neighborhood.